For elderly and seniors needing in home care in Dallas, TX or in home care in Plano, TX area cities, they are often coping with grief and loss that goes beyond an episodic illness. Besides their own health issues, they are often concurrently coping with grief and loss related to a spouse or friend. While many factors affect how well one copes with their grief and loss, attitude is at the top of the list. A caregiver from a highly reputable Dallas, TX area home health care agency that is a highly skilled caregiver, experienced in helping others cope with grief and loss, is an excellent listener and able to be a source of stability, security and safety will be a positive influence toward the healthy attitude needed for their client to best cope with grief and loss.
Care Mountain is a reputable Dallas – Fort Worth, Texas area home health care agency providing caregivers since 2004 that have helped over 2,500 DFW families with in home care needs and with coping with grief and loss. It is from this experience, and my experience since 1986 in this line of work that much of this material is based upon.
An in home care caregiver’s experience helping others cope with grief and loss will be only as good for you as their current passion, commitment and skills devoted to your unique needs allow. I have met wonderful caregivers with many years of experience successfully helping others cope with grief and loss, but now have simply burnt out. No matter how many years of grief/loss experience they have, they now get feedback as being insensitive and not helpful. Also, the skills they have used to help others, may not be the same skills best suited for you. Almost all of our experience helping families with grief and loss has involved people over 50 years of age. The skill sets that have made us successful in this age group, will be different than those need to be effective with a much younger age cohort.
Coping with grief and loss means dealing with higher levels of stress from an undesired change. The last thing needed is more change/stress at a time that your least capable of handling it. This is why in these times we gravitate to stability, safety and a sense of security. That said, you will want a caregiver that has the skill set and ability to commit to be there longer term if needed. The feeling of being depressed is common in coping with grief and loss, and caregiver turnover will only add to this feeling and attitude negativity.
One of the most important and helpful roles a caregiver plays in helping their client cope with grief and loss is as a good listener. In over 32 years helping families in these situations I have not found the magic words to make it all better at that moment, probably because there are none. People just need time to work their grief and loss and there is no highly expedited pathway or methodology I know of.
Being a good/effective listener involves a lot of sincerity and patience. Another common emotion experienced coping with grief and loss is anger. As a result, I have learned to give those clients a much wider latitude of acceptable behavior. Often times this anger will be directed at the caregiver, which is where the importance of patience comes into being a good listener.
A common thread among caregivers most effective at helping their clients cope with grief and loss is that they are in a very good place themselves. Caregivers that are not in really healthy place themselves will struggle to provide what is needed for their client in these situations – good patient listening, quality work, stability and a feeling of safety and security.
When we work with families dealing with significant grief and loss, while the caregivers tasks are performed at an outstanding level, I rarely ever hear about that. What I hear a lot is from family members telling me while they appreciated all the things the caregiver did, it was how the caregiver was there as a valuable source of emotional support that helped the most. Just two weeks ago two nieces called Care Mountain for in home health care in Irving, Texas to set up care for their aunt, so she could leave the nursing home she was at. Their aunt’s health declined suddenly and significantly a month ago, and she was asking to be at home instead of the nursing home. The nieces set her up on 24 hour in home care as Live In home care with Care Mountain. Unfortunately, the aunt ended up on hospice care before leaving the nursing home, but we were able to provide care for her for a week at home before she passed. In calling the nieces to see how they liked our service, they we especially appreciative toward their caregiver Yolanda and how much her emotional support helped them all at such a difficult time.
An in home care caregiver that is in a good healthy place themselves, skilled to care for the health care situation at hand and in the future, has successful experience helping others cope with grief and loss, is a good patient listener and can provide a strong sense of stability, safety and security to the situation at hand, will be a big positive influence on one’s attitude in coping with grief and loss. And the importance of attitude can not be understated. Pain is inevitable, but misery is optional.
Some good local resources to help cope with grief and loss include Connect to Care, Journey of Hope Grief Support Center, Grief Share, Methodist Health Systems Generation Support Group, Grief and Loss Center of North Texas, Cancer Support Community of North Texas, and Lifeworks.CLICK HERE FOR FAQ
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