Care Mountain is one of the Dallas Fort Worth Metrolex home health care agencies with the most experience and highest regarded reputations with the in home care for Alzheimer’s disease and with the in home care for dementia. It is from this experience that most of the information is based upon for this article.
If you ask a family caregiver what stresses them most about caring for their loved one with Alzheimer’s disease, you are likely to hear about behavioral related issues such as non-compliant behavior, same questions being repeated, agitation, arguing and inappropriate behaviors. We have found though, the stress level experienced has less to do with these behaviors, and more to do with the caregiver’s level of acceptance of their loved one’s Alzheimer’s disease.
Accepting that your loved one has Alzheimer’s disease is one of the most difficult things you will have to do, but not adequately accepting it will end up being even more difficult. Denial, or lack of acceptance, puts you up against a fight with reality, which often leads to many unintended consequences such as highly elevated stress levels. I have had this saying through out my home health care management career which says, “it is only easy if you don’t care”. The family caregivers that I admire most because of their very deep love and commitment are the ones normally having the hardest time with acceptance.
One of the common things we observe with family caregivers in denial, is they set unrealistic expectations and are very persistent in achieving them. Not only does this cause elevated stress all around, but it often poses a health and safety risk to all. Care Mountain had been helping Rex care for his wife by providing in home care for Alzheimer’s disease in Arlington, TX. Rex is one of the most caring and loving husbands I have ever worked with in my 31+ years providing home health care. Rex’s wife had been doing exceptionally well for the nine years since she had been diagnosed with Alzheimer’s disease, and Rex felt a big part of that was attributed to his commitment and success with keeping his wife active – and he was right! The problem we were now having though, is that his wife’s health had declined to the point that the walking exercises and bathing procedures were now putting his wife and her caregivers at a much more elevated risk for harm, so we could not continue as was.
Rex was not open to doing anything different because he felt that would be unnecessarily giving up on his wife, especially since things seem to be going well and nothing bad had happened. Top rated Dallas area home health care agencies such as Care Mountain are excellent proactive providers of home care to minimize the chance of something bad happening. The challenge with being proactive is that you are asking someone to make a change when nothing bad has happened, which is a big challenge for anyone in denial. How we helped Rex was by validating his feelings through good listening, encouraging him to seek opinions from other loved ones, encouraging him to obtain more education on the matter at hand through literature and an in home evaluation by a physical therapist and occupational therapist, and finally by helping him set healthy limits and address his concerns and fears.
Rex was surprised to hear his other loved ones agreed with our assessment that change needed to be made in how the care was provided to his wife. Often time the hardest thing to tell someone is the truth that you know will be painful and not wanting to be heard, which is why many family members delay telling it. The physical and occupational therapists reaffirmed what everyone else had been saying, and were also able to recommend new methods to keep his wife active, but within healthy limits of health and safety. It was a lot easier for Rex to start accepting his wife’s health declines when he felt he had options that allowed him to still make a positive difference and not be giving up on his wife.
Rex’s case was a good example of how to work toward acceptance and avoid the harmful stress of fighting realty. It showed how very caring people like Rex are more willing to accept something when they are further educated on the matter through people they trust such as family members and medical professionals, and most importantly they are presented with options they feel still allow them to make a positive difference with what is important to them.
Some good local sources of support for Alzheimer’s home care and dementia home care in the Dallas area can be found at the Greater Dallas Chapter of the Alzheimer’s Association and the North Central Texas Chapter of the Alzheimer’s Association.
Some notable local physical and occupational therapists for an in-home evaluation are Senior Rehab Solutions, Baylor Scott & White Rehabilitation & Physical Therapy, Dallas Medical Center Physical Medicine & Rehab, FYZICAL Therapy & Balance Center, Arlington Physical Therapy, Vista Rehab Partners, Fort Worth Physical Therapy, Baylor Carrollton Rehab and Edge Physical Therapy just to name a few.CLICK HERE FOR FAQ
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